With our son, we have dutifully driven with him and coached him through the interminable 120 hours required for him to attain his driver’s license – the hours initially seemed a chore and as they mounted and ultimately drew to an end, I came to recognise the gift of having this time captive with my soon to be released teenager. When my right leg wasn’t stabbing with terror into the passenger foot well, or I wasn’t distracted by the continual compunction to turn down the volume of the radio featuring some obscenely worded rap song, I have had the chance to actually talk. Often the response was not much more than a grunt of acknowledgement, but occasionally I was rewarded with a rare gem - conversation. And it has now come to an end.
As the day of the license has drawn nearer the excitement of impending freedom has become palpable. Exhilarating for him and very daunting for us. But I know it is necessary and part of the process of parenting and the step by tortuous step of letting go.
So what has this to do with matters financial? Everything and nothing – in short, the opposite applies. Letting go is disastrous when it comes to our finances. Just when we’ve completed our filing, mountains of additional paperwork and bills have piled up demanding our attention. Just when we have virtuously submitted our tax return, another year-end rolls past, ceaselessly, unendingly, unsympathetically. Just when we become complacent with our portfolio’s inflation beating returns, the stock market plummets again, beginning another succession of anxiety, uncertainty and rebuilding of our asset base. It is an endless cycle that we cannot escape, and unfortunately for us, nor should we. We cannot let our attention lapse, pass it on to another and become passive. That’s when as Yeats predicted in The Second Coming: “Things fall apart, the centre cannot hold…” In our quest for individual financial security we owe it to ourselves to remain eternally vigilant.
Dramatic yes, but it holds true. Get yourself a good financial planner and take it on the chin. Just as our children mature, our financial knowledge too develops and we become more comfortable with our state of affairs. We begin to understand volatility, long-term returns and to manage our emotions around markets and their erratic behaviour. Conquering our fear is the common theme here – achieving the fulfillment of stepping outside our comfort zone, and taking control of our tomorrow. Just as our children will take of theirs. That, we have to trust.

